Why traveling for divorced parents is a burden

When I was two years old, my parents got a divorce. Since then, my dad and his family have lived in seven different states from the East Coast to the West. Considering I’ve been flying alone since I was eight, I’ve had plenty of time to come to the conclusion that travelling for divorced parents is a burden for the child.


Throughout my childhood, missing school was doable, and it wasn’t as stressful as it is now. The start of high school was when missing school became an issue. Although most of the time I visit my family during Winter, Spring, or Summer break, homework and school activities started interfering with that time which was supposed to be reserved for visiting family.


Summer homework became prominent, but was easy to handle because it could be taken anywhere. The summer before my junior year, I decided to take multiple classes through Allan Hancock College’s CollegeNow! Program. One of the classes I was planning on taking was Economics, but the online class filled up quickly, meaning the only class left available needed to be done at the college. At this point, I had to choose which was more important: school or family? Not being able to take the class meant it would have to be pushed back to either next spring or summer semester, which is exactly what ended up happening.


Not only does travelling affect your academic life, it also affects your sports life as well. Since I’ve lived in Santa Maria my entire life, I’ve established connections with people, and have been a part of a club soccer team for five years. Having to travel across the country causes friction between me, my coach, and my teammates; it leaves my team with a player less, and it also causes a loss in playing time, which is hard to get back. The high school soccer season doesn’t start until winter, but the coach plans preseason practices and weights throughout summer break so we are able to build relationships with incoming players, and stay fit for the upcoming season.  


All of these factors come into play when deciding to spend time away from home with family across the country. In the end, it isn’t worth it